M.A of Family Counseling, Faculty of Educational Sciences, Shahid Beheshti University
Reviewing the practice of the religious leaders, including the prophet of Islam (PBUH) and the infallible Imams, show that their system of child rearing is taken from a divine system targets the absolute perfection. Therefore, the maturity and development of an individual is addressed, always focusing on prevention prior to cure. In child rearing, Islam adopts an approach which puts affection, love and advice together with tolerance and caution at the center. Therefore, punishment is not a priority but as an instrument which may be used when kindness and affection fail to develop appropriate habits. In Islamic cultivation, going to extremes is not favored and only this way can we cultivate balanced individuals with all their potentials and capacities being full-fledged and their body, soul, intellect functioning in harmony. Although, in Islamic law and jurisprudence, the corporal punishment of children is allowed on the condition that their body does not turn red, black or bruised and it is only for the purpose of disciplining children. However, the violence of parents against children is disapproved and it is considered to be detrimental to their proper cultivation and guidance. Parents are persuaded to treat their children kindly, tenderly and caressingly.